Yesterday, June 25th my family traveled to Stedman, NC (right outside of Fayetteville NC) to celebrate the life of Jonah King. On Tuesday June 28th Jonah would have been 21 years old.
Every year for the past 4 years the King family puts on a Helmet Drive to collect helmets to give to charities in their areas to give away helmets to those who receive bikes, scooters, skateboards, etc.... Ken (Jonah's Dad) donates to a local charity in the area "The Bike Lady" that gives bikes to kids who may not otherwise receive one and Jackie (Jonah's mom) donates to Toys for Tots to show support for the Marine Corp and to get helmets to go with gifts that are collected for distribution.
This year as we loaded the car we were pleased to be taking 30 helmets with us, last year we took 19 helmets....11 more this year! Our family goal is to raise more money or bring more helmets each year that we go.
Every year that we go it is certainly a blessing to meet more extended family than we have in the 3 years past that we have been attending. This was my first time meeting Jonah's Aunt and Uncle, two cousins and Grandmother. It is always a special moment to get to hug these people for the first time. Ken and Tina hosted this event at their house yesterday and did a wonderful job.
They had games for the kids (with prizes which they thought was wonderful!), fed us all and of course collected helmets. Ken had donate life bracelets for everyone and donate life lapel pins (which of course if very near and dear my mine and Rays hearts!) he even had gotten a donate life flag for Ray and John (the gentleman who received Jonah's lungs).
Honestly one of the highlights of the evening was Noah. Noah is the "middle brother"! For the past year Noah (who has the most carefree, loving, easy going free spirit) rode cross country and lived in California for the past year- leaving not long after the helmet event last year at this time. During his time away Noah wrote a song (well I am sure many but one in particular) called "John, John and Ray". There are two Johns who received organs from Jonah- John from Maine received his lungs and John from NJ received Jonah's heart.
As I listened to this song of course my eyes filled with tears- the line about Ray was telling Jonah you would be proud to know to know this volunteer firefighter from the Red Oak FD who has your liver. As Noah sang this song I also watched his Dad Ken who's eyes were just filled with tears during the song. Tears of pride and joy I am sure as he watched his son write and preform this song and tears of sadness as this family still daily thinks of and misses a missing piece of their family. As I listened to Noah sing I thought this is how Noah heals from losing his baby brother, by picking up a guitar, singing and writing. Part of how I think I coped with all this was through writing and blogging- telling others about our story/stories.
It is a bittersweet moment seeing this family each year. You are happy and excited to see them but also feel a sense of sadness as you know someone for them is missing. I can't explain how this family has embraced my family, Ray, John and his wife Lee from Maine and Johnnie D from NJ. As we were leaving last night and I hug them all goodbye I hear things like "I love you and I love you very much" and I fight back the tears trying to be strong. I hug Malachi and Noah goodbye- who are like brothers to Ray and I now- especially Ray- the brothers he never had. I squeeze them both so tight saying "I love you very much"...hoping in some small way they know how grateful I am to Jonah, the brother they miss everyday but also knowing that Jonah too loves them very much and is sending them a hug through Ray and I.
This family has forever changed my families life. We love them very much-Ken, Jackie, Malachi and Noah (and ALL the extended family we have met-Tina, Bernice, Gene and Barb King, Nichole and Steve, Jess and Ashley, etc...etc...etc...) they are extended family that we became forever bonded with 4 years ago when tragedy struck for them but life began again for the Brooks'.
So as the night ended last night each couple or pair lite a Chinese lantern to send up for Jonah- there were 21 this year because Jonah would have been 21 this year. It is a serene feeling seeing all 21 in the air.
I love that through all of this, this family is STRONG. This tragedy didn't break them, it's built them up and made them stronger than before. They educate others about the importance of helmet safety, raise awareness, collect and distribute helmets and educate others about the importance of organ, eye and tissue donation.
So as Noah sang last night that as he misses his brother he thinks about "John, John and Ray"....well Noah there isn't a day that goes by that the Brooks' don't think about Jonah (and Jackie, Ken, Malachi and Noah!) and our eternal gratefulness to him and the plan that God had in place for our two families four years ago.
God is good, all the time
Rays 2nd chance...LIVE IT, GIVE IT, DONATE LIFE
Follow the story of Ray Brooks and his families journey with him as he recovers from his 2nd liver transplant. June 13, 2012
Sunday, June 26, 2016
Tuesday, June 14, 2016
Jonah King HELMET DRIVE June 25th 2016...we NEED your help!!!
Hey all
As many of you may
know the young man who donated the liver to Ray-Jonah King- his family
holds a helmet drive each year in Jonah's honor- to raise awareness and
provide helmets to kids who receive bikes, skateboards, scooters,
etc...helmet safety.
Ray and Janet
Thursday, May 12, 2016
Wednesdays visit back to Duke for a followup 5-10-16
Ray and I traveled to Duke yesterday for a followup since his release last Friday (a week ago)
He had followup blood work and had his staples removed. The surgeon was very pleased with how his incision was looking and the infection that had occurred after surgery is healing very nicely. He will continue on his at home IV antibiotic for about another week in a half. That has been going well and we are handling the Picc line and administering the antibiotic nightly as "pros" now.
On the 20th Ray will take a picture and email to them to see how it looks since the staples have been removed. If it continues to heal and look better then they will stop antibiotics that week. Otherwise the surgeon released Ray from her care and turned it back over to Rays liver Dr., Dr King. He is able to drive now so he was EXCITED about that!
Dr. Sudan said his
total amount of healing time and time out of work from the date of
surgery will be 8-12 weeks so it seems he will return to work July 1st. He had followup blood work and had his staples removed. The surgeon was very pleased with how his incision was looking and the infection that had occurred after surgery is healing very nicely. He will continue on his at home IV antibiotic for about another week in a half. That has been going well and we are handling the Picc line and administering the antibiotic nightly as "pros" now.
On the 20th Ray will take a picture and email to them to see how it looks since the staples have been removed. If it continues to heal and look better then they will stop antibiotics that week. Otherwise the surgeon released Ray from her care and turned it back over to Rays liver Dr., Dr King. He is able to drive now so he was EXCITED about that!
Monday, May 9, 2016
Ray was released from Duke on Friday May 6, 2016
Ray was released from Duke on Friday and Riley and I brought him home! Riley rode with me and surprised her Daddy!
He
is happy to be back at his own house, in his own bed, able to rest and
be comfortable and sleep "normal hours" not hospital hours! A home heath nurse will come twice a week to change the bandage/dressing on his picc line and to draw blood.
I
am sure at our Wednesday visit we will learn more about how much longer
he will need to heal, when he can begin driving, etc....
Isaiah 40:4
Every valley shall be lifted up, and every mountain and hill be made low; the uneven ground shall become level, and the rough places a plain.
Sunday, May 1, 2016
May 1st....beginning the month BACK at Duke again
Just wanted you all to know that Ray is back at Duke as of last night.
He went to the ER here (Greenville) and then was transported by ambulance to Duke. He has continued to have low grade fevers 99-100 off and on from Wed-Saturday.
On Saturday it became more red, tender to the touch, and swollen/inflamed above the incision.
Tuesday, April 26, 2016
GREAT report from today 4-26-16
Sorry for the late update today!
He
survived without me as I left Duke yesterday afternoon. He is
continuing to do his walking "laps" and even showered last night for the
first time since surgery!
Rays had a great day and very productive!
Thank you all for the continued prayers, thoughts, texts/emails to Ray to help pass the time since he is there by himself now!
Janet and Ray
Monday, April 25, 2016
Today has been a busy day...but a good day!
Well this has been a busy day, AM so far.
Capped
the bile bag so it is draining inside now as it "should" be...tonight's
labs and tomorrow AM will be the tell tale sign of what is happening
with the "repair".
Feel
recovery will be a minimum of 6 weeks with the big incision they had to
make or "remake!" Hospital stay till about Wednesday/Thursday.
They
did take the catheter out and the epidural is turned off. Epidural not
pulled out yet- his platelets were low yesterday/this AM so they want to
wait until they go up so there isn't a bleed. They had been giving him heparin shots to prevent blood clots after surgery but since he is moving around those have stopped today. So hopefully in the next day or two platelets will come up and then they can pull the epidural.
Was able to eat solid food today- graduated from jello/liquids....to scrambled eggs/bagel!
Slowly but surely things are getting better and better. 252-347-1449
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